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Breaking up.
Ending a relationship.
Splitting apart a couple once in love.
Mending a broken heart.
Finding someone new.
These have been themes of love songs for many decades.
Whether you grew up in the 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s or more recently you’ll have heard them, hummed them, danced to them and no doubt have your favorites.
Breaking up and other relationships issues fill the pages of many novels, feature in popular magazine stories, in the lines of poems, and are a universal topic of women’s conversations.
- Those who have not been into a relationship fear it will happen.
- Those who are currently in a relationship are wishing and hoping it wont happen.
- Those who have come from a failed relationship ask why it happened.
No matter how smooth-sailing a relationship is in the beginning sometimes it doesn’t last forever. When it comes to an end there is pain, grief, heartache, regrets and other mixed emotions. Sadly it is a hard fact of life that we must learn to accept.
Almost everyone at some time in their life has had to go through a breakup.
A breakup is a strange thing. Most things in life, the more you do them, the easier it becomes to do. But with breakups no matter how many you’ve had to go through in the past, they certainly don’t become easier to go through.
After a breakup, unless the relationship was completely terrible, most people desire to get their ex back. In fact, sometimes, even if the relationship was unhealthy, they still desire to get their ex back. For obvious reasons you should avoid reuniting with an ex who was physically or emotionally abusive. That is not a healthy relationship. If you were in a relationship like that and your ex broke up with you, then consider yourself lucky.
Otherwise, most relationships follow a pretty predictable pattern. In the beginning everything is wonderful and new. The other person is the best thing to happen in your life. They can do no wrong and you can do no wrong in their eyes. Unfortunately that honeymoon phase seldom lasts forever. You adjust to each other and reach a comfort level. It is then that many aspects of the relationship start to change.
As they say “love is blind” and very often when the relationship is new it is easy to overlook things in your lover that you might not accept from anyone else. After a time the blinkers come off and those things that may have been attractive in the beginning or easily overlooked now become a source of irritation.
There is an expression: “familiarity breeds contempt” and truer words couldn’t be spoken for relationships. After a couple get comfortable and familiar with each other, trouble usually starts. Sometimes this is termed falling into a rut. Other issues like work and career, money problems and children take priority and the ‘lover’ relationship gets pushed into the background.
This is exactly what tests the strength of the relationship. It takes work and effort to maintain a relationship. And of course it takes two to do this.
With physical possessions (eg: autos, appliances, etc) when things break or start falling apart you have the option of repairing or replacing. The same holds true in relationships. Sadly sometimes, when things start falling apart, instead of working at repairing the damage one partner decides they want out of the relationship completely.
If this is the position you find yourself in today you need to ask yourself:
“Do I believe, despite my partner leaving and saying it is over, that our relationship is worth salvaging?
If your answer is YES or a DEFINITE MAYBE then you are no doubt asking yourself ‘will my ex come back to me’ and need some answers.
If your answer is NO or DEFINITELY NOT then you are possibly asking yourself how can I move on and what can I do to get my life back on track.
This site is dedicated to helping you find those answers.
Seasons of Love
Autumn
leaves falling
new love calling
will it ever be
one for me
or just one more
memory stored …
Winter
snow falling
new love calling
or one so old
growing cold
stoke the fire
getting tired …
Spring
rains falling
new love calling
flowers blooming
heartache looming
break up pain
send the rain …
Summer
sun shining
not pining
for lost love
blue sky above
life is divine
summer wine …
I think it’s essential for other to do this. I’m sure it will guide them in doing the right thing.
I am not too confident if I absolutely agree with you on this. Couldn’t there be alternate way to see it?